I've been doing a lot of thinking about how I live my life, in all its aspects. As my husband and I become empty nesters, I feel it's a good time to reexamine how we live our lives and begin to make some decisions about where to focus our time and energy going forward. If you're interested in more of my preliminary thinking about this, see
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After mentioning Michael Pollan's
Food Rules a few days ago, I thought I'd put down my own thoughts on the subject, starting with where we are today - this basic framework is good, but I want to make some adjustments, which I'll talk about towards the end of this post. These aren't really rules, they're more guidelines. I used to be a pretty unhealthy eater, but over time I've learned to eat differently, and I now weigh about the same as I did at 20 and I feel better than I have in years. I've been eating this way for years, and it's doable, although there is some effort involved. I don't count calories or follow a diet plan, I just eat, and live, in a way that I think promotes health, including a healthy weight - but that doesn't mean that I'm skinny nor do I aspire to be, and I don't even own a scale.
To me, eating food, good food, means that I think of food as a pleasure, a necessary pleasure, and not as a source of nutrients or calories. By eating a wide variety of foods, I ensure that I meet all nutritional requirements. My first rule is very similar to Pollan's main theme in his rules - I don't eat anything that comes in a package, with very few exceptions. I do eat frozen vegetables and fruit - if there are no other ingredients added, canned tomatoes in different forms and canned beans - again with no added ingredients and no processed spaghetti sauces. I also use both low-fat milk and low-fat plain yoghurt (unsweetened) and unsweetened plain soy milk, and I do use several of the Cascadian Farms cereals with minimal added sugars. There are many packaged organic and "natural" foods, but I don't buy any of them with those few exceptions - they're still packaged.
This rule alone cuts out almost all of the stuff that is an issue, including packaged sweets, sodas, and snack foods. No pre-made salad dressings - they're very easy to make at home. If I don't buy it, it isn't in my house and I don't eat it. If I want something sweet or special, I make it myself. I'm fortunate that I really don't care all that much for sweets - my husband isn't so fortunate.
I buy and eat many types of fruits and vegetables. When my CSA (community sponsored agriculture) share from our local organic farm is available - from May until mid-December, that is my first source for real vegetables and fruits, then there are our local farmers' markets, and then there are supermarkets - Whole Foods (which is about a 30 minute drive away) has the best selection, followed by my local supermarkets. One interesting thing about the CSA share is that it has taught me to use and enjoy a number of vegetables that were new to me - fennel, tat soi, celeriac and others - it took some experimenting to find the best ways to use these but they're now all favorites (I love poached fennel bulbs that are then sliced and run under a broiler with parmesan cheese on top, tat soi as the basis of a salad made with a soy/toasted sesame seed dressing, and celeriac in a stir fry or soup). To me the priorities are fresh, in season if possible, local if possible and organic if possible, in about that order.
In order to eat healthy, there is nothing more important in my opinion that to make your own food, using real ingredients. You determine the amount of sugar and salt added, and there are only real foods as ingredients. But you might say - where can I find the time to cook? There are ways - many dishes only require a limited amount of time - a simple pasta sauce, a simple soup, a stir fry, a main dish salad, an omelette with a green salad, and many other dishes, require only a short time to prepare. Even bean dishes from scratch and home-made bread or pizza dough can be done in stages if the timing is planned correctly. With a chest freezer - not very expensive to buy or operate - when I have more time I can prepare larger dishes to divide and freeze.
You will notice that there is nothing in this set of rules about diets, or dieting, or counting calories, or feeling deprived. I don't eat between meals, except for a piece of fruit, and I don't eat large portions, so I'm hungry by the time I eat my next meal, but that feeling is a good one - it makes eating the next meal more pleasurable.
I haven't mentioned meat, because I'm a vegetarian. If I did eat meat, I would look for locally raised meat and poultry rather than the factory-farmed meat and poultry that is mostly all that is available in the supermarket (and "natural" means nothing). Factory farming, to me, is a contradiction in terms - animals, even those designed for consumption, should never be treated (often inhumanely) as items in a factory or fed the things they are fed (including foods they were not designed to consume, and antibiotics and hormones).
Learning to eat well, and enjoy food, as a vegetarian, has been an evolving challenge. It takes more planning, I think, to eat a healthy and sustaining vegetarian diet - at the beginning we fell into the trap of packaged convenience foods and excessive fatty foods (I called this our "cheesatarian" stage) - partly driven by the fact that we were also feeding children who were hard to please (although vegetarian themselves by choice - they did it first). We had to learn to use more beans and legumes and whole grains - my lifestyle is very active and without that I just wasn't eating well or feeling satisfied. We're still learning to use tofu and tempeh, but more experiments are in order. We do not use packaged meat substitutes - no fake bacon, sausage or meat - these are heavily processed foods and if I wanted to be eating meat that's what I should be eating.
I'm pretty satisfied with what and how we eat, but there are some changes I'm exploring making as a result of my new themes of Adventure and Creativity/Self-Expression. My husband and I tend to be fairly repetitive in our cooking and eating - same recipes, same restaurants, and even ordering the same dish every time at the restaurant. I made a conscious decision when we ate out at lunch yesterday at a Thai restaurant to choose a dish I was unfamiliar with and not sure I would like - a green curry made with coconut milk. It was very good, so I was rewarded this time - I won't like everything I try but I bet I'll like a lot of it.
In our home cooking, I have always been primarily ingredient-driven - I love to see the vegetables and fruits and cook based on what I see. I'll continue to to that, but try to consciously select new things to try, and do some experimentation with different styles of cooking and different cuisines. I love spicy food, and my husband will tolerate it, so we'll be trying some of that too. My goal is to try new foods, new recipes and dishes and just have fun experimenting, understanding that there may be some disasters in cooking along the way. I'd also like to spend more time experimenting with the beauty of food - the mixes of colors and the way the food is presented. More variety, more taste, more beauty - this will be fun!